How should I react now that I know they were all fake and all lies? How could it be for so long, more than three years and I stuck to my own silly trust? What should I do? I don't know. I cried and cried. And my heart felt so much pain. 

The picture I painted of a wonderful, trustworthy hubby is now gone. I don't know how from tomorrow onwards, I can look at you and still feel the same old trust I had in you. Trust is like glass, once broken, no matter how you mend it, there's always a crack. And the picture I always held in my heart of a very happy family of three, the one I always feel proud to blog about, to make videos of, that picture is now scarred. Don't blame me for feeling this way. You have no idea the hole you've dug in my heart. You know jolly well how easily hurt I can be, and to be in the dark for over three years, with you smoking a pack every few days behind me, smoking with all your buddies when you get the chance to, and yet in front of me keeping the lie, it just ain't right.

Why do guys all like to lie and then say that "If I told you the truth, you'll be hurt", and then give them a reason to continue their wrongdoing? And when the showdown happens, just say that "See, I knew this would happen, that's why I lie to you". Come on. It doesn't help. One year, two years, three years, a decade, for how long can you keep up the lie? And when it's discovered, what happens? Breakup? Treat it like nothing happened? What do you want us to do?

I don't usually talk this way, right? So when I do, you know that I'm really very hurt and affected. My tears are still flowing though everyone is fast asleep in the house. I just feel so sorry the whole thing happened like that. And that I cried and flared up, uncontrollably, in front of my baby. She got frightened and she cried with me. I never cried like that in front of her before. I'm sure she's scared and scarred too. Sorry, my dear Angel. Mummy didn't mean to do that to you. I just can't help but feeling so so so sad about everything.

Our previous quarrels were always about booze and drinking. How you would not be able to control your liquor, get foolishly drunk, say stupid and sometimes vulgar words to me, act overly intimately with others, or reached home drunk and puked over the floor and made my night a mess. But you would always claim that you forgot. Just when I thought giving birth to Angel helped us rid alot of our vice habits and make our family a harmonious and happy one, now do I realise that you haven't kept your word and while I was pregnant, giving birth and raising Angel all this while, you had something hiding from me. A promise you made to me when you proposed, and you said that if we were going to have a family, even more so you wouldn't want to smoke. You said it all. Was it just a show? Just an act? Or just a promise that you didn't want to keep in the first place but said it so that I would agree to your proposal? (You didn't even had a ring!! But I had so much trust in your words.)

You said it was impossible to tell me the truth. But you know what, I'm sure we could work out a compromise somehow, like you could smoke when you go sailing cos' you feel stressed. We could work out an open, honest and fair solution to all if we had negotiated. Not this, not do it behind walls and let me find out a few years later and realised how naive I was. It's probably a thousand times worse.

If there's anyone who can teach me how to build up trust once more, please do. Because I just feel kinda hopeless now. Time will probably help to lessen the hurt as it always does, but I don't know how to make things go back to the way they used to be before today. For the first time, I'm feeling a low in my usually very happy marriage and family. It sux. And if you're reading this but don't understand why it's such a big deal to me, that's probably because you're not me and you don't understand how I'm feeling. But I promise I'll get better. I always do. Good nitez.