Thursday, September 28, 2006
Mummy came back from holiday yesterday!! Yippie yay, and look what she got for me!! She went Shanghai, Suzhou, Hangzhou and Wu Xi and yet she spent so little $$. Her friends spent thousands while my thrify mummy only spent less than $400 excluding the package. How could that be possible??? Haha.. I spent over $3k when I went Shanghai a couple of years back!! The things are just so cheap and good over there and so many temptations surround you no matter where you go!! BUT, to make myself feel better, I spent 5 weeks there and they only spent 9 days. =)
My lovely presents!
1. Two cute little pigs, one red one blue, made out of clay. Mummy always buy pigs for me, not because wo shi zhu, but because I'm born in the year of the oink oink.
2. A Ralph Lauren T-shirt. Imitation of coz, but it's nice and Mummy has a black one so we have couple shirts!!
3. A beautiful top she got at Qi Pu Lu in Shanghai. I luv it!! Like a little princess. Mummy seldom buys clothes that I really really like, but this is one of them.
4. Matching pair of earrings to go with the top
5. You won't believe this. It's a walking and singing Doraemon!! Looks like a penguin when it walks. Haha. Mummy actually bought this for me, coz' she thinks that I like Xiao Ding Dang (which I used to and I still do). So sweet of her. =) I like Xiao Ding Dang becoz it stays smiling even if the world comes crushing down, and it need not have any woes becoz it can churn out ANYTHING from its front pocket.
6. Mummy bought a yellow shirt for jw too!~ How nice. And it has a soccer pic at the front. So apt too and jw loves bright colours.
7. This is my fav!! A hp accessory with two cute little pigs and my name (Shuang Shuang) on the two little metal balls in the middle. I luv stuff which are personalised. Esp since my mum picked out everything you see on this chain, from the thread colour to every other detail.So happy that mummy is back, & glad that she had a fun time in China. I kinda miss Shanghai, esp the super yummy yang rou chuan (lamb meat stick) you can get at the roadside stalls, sprinkled with chilli powder. Of coz, I miss the wonderful shopping there too! Hope I'll get to go back someday when I'm older.
But for now, my wish is to go Europe or Tokyo for my next overseas trip!! Muz save up more $$$$.. Much much more..
~Summer~ 10:34 PM
Monday, September 25, 2006
On Sunday, I went Yum Cha wif Sabbie and Juno. Well well, it was supposedly an LCBs outing, but end up only the 3 of us were there. Diana had a full lunch and din wanna come, Binny had to babysit her niece, Teresa had chalet, Becky din even noe about it coz she din check her emails, and zhongrui juz disappeared and din answer our calls!!
It's like deja vu, and I was reminded of the nite in Sydney when we went to the Casino together. ;p
Luckily there wasn't a lot of people in the restaurant, so we could sit down and have a good long chat. & Wow, we actually just stay put there for like over 4 hours!!! Haha. My longest dim sum lunch ever. The food was not bad, considering its price. 3 of us ordered quite a variety of dim sum, and gosh we finished every bit of it!!
We chatted about everything under the sun, from bgr to hall 6 to working life to texas holdem to mlm!! It's like, we won't run out of things to say. Honestly it feels soooo good to just sit down and catch up with old frenz over a cup of tea. I don't know how many of my friends can do this with me, but if you're reading this, i hope you're one of them.
I tried the pomelo wif sago dessert again!! Nice!! I always like to see the dry ice effect, even though it's only for a short short while. Haha. Beautiful things are usually momentary, don't you agree? We also ordered the mango pudding!! And over dessert, we chatted for like another one and half hours again before we finally left Yum Cha. Sabbie decided to go home and not eat anymore, Juno was meeting Ernest to go Chinese garden to see the Mid-Autumn decorations, while I was going back Junwei's house to eat Bak Kut Teh wif his family. Yeah yeah, it's eat and eat and eat nowadays. How can I not get fatter..
Anyway, it really was a splendid Sunday afternoon and sure hope we can have a full LCBs gathering soon!!
~Summer~ 11:14 PM
Jw finally came back last Thursday...
It was like reunion for us, yeah I know it sounds absurb cos' he was away for 2 weeks not 2 years or decades, but well we've been living under the same roof for three years now, and things really become different when you are living together.
But instead of moaning over how much I missed him, to put things in another perspective, if I didn't experience the loneliness and forlornness of being without him, how would I better cherish and relish in the joy of being together as a couple, right? I guess so. Which is why I was super elated when he came back.
& hey guess what he gave me the next morning? You won't believe it, a simple present but yet made me feel like the most fortunate gf in the world. Hehe.
I was rushing for work, and he had half day off and thus didn't need to work in the morn. But yet, we woke up together and while I was showering away, I could smell the frying of omelettes and some other yummy food. Uh oh, since I was going to be late for work, I knew I had to break his heart and tell him I can't stay back to eat breakfast with him.
But when I was all set to go for work, here he came armed with a bottle of iced Milo (my fav!) and two sandwiches (with luncheon meat and omelette) all packed nicely in a tupperware. & he said "Deardear, ni de ai xin zao can (loosely translated as: Your LOVE BREAKFAST)!!". Haha. What can be more sweet than that.. I just felt like I'm the most xing fu person ever..
It was the most yummy breakfast I ever had, and I attended training at 9.30am with a cheerful mind and a full stomach. =) Thanks dear.. I promise I'll try to make nice nice ai xin zao can for you too.. Hee..
~Summer~ 4:28 PM
Friday, September 22, 2006
Gosh.. These babies are so cute!! =)
~Summer~ 6:49 PM
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
Why do we always think that we know for sure whether someone truly loves us? We are not him/her after all, so how do we know? I really wonder why people always assume so many things. That turn out to be so wrong eventually. When a guy does smtg not so romantic or says smtg insensitive, we think that he doesn't love us or dote on us. When a girl doesn't give you enough personal time or doesn't support you enough in your career, you think she doesn't love or care for you and doesn't understand what you are going through.
It's just.. so wrong.. to think this way. Because it ain't true. Sometimes people love us in another way that we can't see, but don't be so blinded that you can't even FEEL it. We should use our hearts, and never our eyes nor ears when it comes to the word LOVE.
Here's a story that I wanna share, a really simple story but it depicts just how we can take people for granted and not see things from their perspective. It's dumb to think that someone does not love you, when he has always been doing so all along with his entire heart and soul..Read on..
My husband was an engineer. Since I met him, he was always an unflappable rock in my life. I knew he always had his feet firmly planted on the ground, and it seemed that no matter what else went crazy, he would be the one constant.
Three years of romance, and two years of marriage later, I got tired. He was the most unromantic man I know. He never bought me flowers, he never surprised me, and nothing changed in our marriage.
After some time, I finally found the courage to tell him that I wanted to leave him. He just sat there, speechless. My heart froze... what kind of man was I married to that didn't even know what to say to make me stay?
After a while, he spoke, "What can I do to change your mind?". "I will stay if you can give me a good answer to this question," I replied coldly. "If I asked for a flower that grew on a cliff, and you knew that getting it for me means certain death, would you get it for me?". His face grew troubled.
"Can I give you an answer tomorrow morning?" he asked. Hearing that kind of answer, my heart died. I knew that I could never be happy with a man who couldn't even give me a answer straight away.
The next morning, when I woke up, he was missing. In the living room, under a warm glass of milk, was a note. My eyes grew misty as I read it..."Dear, I have my answer. I will never pick the flower for you if it meant certain death. But before you leave, I hope you can give me a chance to give you my reasons....You will always sit in front of the computer and type about for the whole day, but everytime you will end up in tears cause your formating will always go all over the place... I need my fingers, to do the formating for you, so your tears will become smiles.
You like to travel, but would always get lost... I need my eyes, so that I can bring you to the nicest places on earth
Everytime you leave the house, you would always forget your keys... I need my legs, so that I can run home to open the door for you.
You never knew how to take care of yourself... I need my hands to help you get rid of the pesky white hair you hate so much when you grow old, to trim your nails, to feed you.
So you see, that's why I can't pick the flower for you. Until I find someone who loves you more than I do, I will need my body to take care of you.
If you accept my reasons, then open the door, where I will be waiting with your favourite muffin."
With tears streaming from my eyes, I opened the door, and there he stood, with a extremely worried look on his face. He still had nothing to say, but just stood there waving the packet he had in his hand in front of me. And then I knew for a fact that I will never find another man who will ever love me as much as he does.
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean that they don't love you with all they have... Remember it and remember it well.. & never ever take anyone in this world for granted..
You know why I luv kids so much? Simply because they look at the world and live their lives with such innocence, trust and pure love, which sadly always disappears in this process called growing up.. Sometimes, we should really learn from kids.. =)
~Summer~ 1:53 PM
Singapore Media Awards @ Ritz Carlton
Last Friday, 15th Sept, I attended the first Media Awards of my life. I was very much looking forward to it, cos I guess it would be an eye opener for me as a neophyte in the media industry.
Since I didn't know any of the media owners or organisers there, I stuck to Elvina (my new found buddy at OMD who started work on the same day as mi!) and Madz (my senior in OM1 who's a party-goer & a great friend) most of the time. I guess, soon, I would join in the networking that always happens during occasions like this. That's just how the world works doesn't it? Networking is soooo inevitable.
Held at Ritz Carlton, the food wasn't as sumptious as one would expect, but it was good enough for my liking. Yummy yummy. Summer gal is not much of a food connoisseur yet, I guess. Likes to eat almost everything (dat's not spicy lar =p).
OMD bagged 2 awards this year, which include Best Integrated Campaign & Best Use of Magazine. =) Not bad. Next year we'll win even more!! Yeah.
~Summer~ 1:00 AM
Monday, September 18, 2006
Letting go of a deeply loved one..
When you are alone, do you tend to think about your life? I do. I look back into my past, the route I've taken, the friends I've made, the people I've loved and hurt. It always conjures alot of memories, both happy and sad ones.
It's not that I wanna dwell in the past, but I believe that everyone has his own unique history, and it's our own life experiences that make us grow and mature and become better people. Looking back into the past lets me think about the person I was, and the person I am now.
Do you realise how much you've changed, say from secondary school till now? How have you matured, or are you still a child at heart? How has your thinking liberalised or changed? How has your love life developed and what have you learnt from failed relationships?
For me, I was once a silly fool and an idiot who let go of a very precious love. Don't ask me why. I don't know what happened either. Probably I got too immersed in uni and hall life, that I took the love I had for granted and thought it would be always here to stay. Till one day, it finally dawned on me that the love was gone. He was gone, and never to come back to my side again. I was such a fool. I realised what I've let go of, and no amount of tearing is going to help because he already had someone new. He told me about the hurt I had inflicted on him back then, and how it took him so much to move on. It was then after that the pain came through to me, but I knew I had to move on too, no matter how much strength it would take.
Please, don't be like me. Don't realise your mistake only when it's too late. It ain't easy in this world to find a person whom you truly love, and who loves you just as deeply in return. When two people fall in love, there ain't no promise that the love will be eternal. But you gotta try and not give up easily or you may never find it again.
I don't know why I'm thinking about this so much tonight. I went throught the box in my home that's filled with these past memories. The gifts, the letters, the cards, the love that was buried in the past. There will always be a mark in my life, because I can never make up for my grave mistake.
I learnt my lesson the hard way, but I swear I will not let myself repeat that mistake again. My fate brought jw to me, and we've stuck together through the sun and the rain for more than 3 years now. My longest love so far. Sure, there were times when I wanna give up, times when I thought he's not the right guy for me. BUT, I tell myself to stop having negative thoughts anymore for the simple fact that I love him. The one thing I'm sure of is that I don't wanna lose him. Never Ever. I will kill myself if I make the same mistake that I made 4 years back.
I honestly don't want to let go of someone I love again. Like what jw always say, as long as we love each other, we can overcome each and every obstacle in our way. I believe it's through obstacles that a couple learns and understands each other better.
It's not that I wanna dwell in the past, but I believe that everyone has his own unique history, and it's our own life experiences that make us grow and mature and become better people. Looking back into the past lets me think about the person I was, and the person I am now.
Do you realise how much you've changed, say from secondary school till now? How have you matured, or are you still a child at heart? How has your thinking liberalised or changed? How has your love life developed and what have you learnt from failed relationships?
For me, I was once a silly fool and an idiot who let go of a very precious love. Don't ask me why. I don't know what happened either. Probably I got too immersed in uni and hall life, that I took the love I had for granted and thought it would be always here to stay. Till one day, it finally dawned on me that the love was gone. He was gone, and never to come back to my side again. I was such a fool. I realised what I've let go of, and no amount of tearing is going to help because he already had someone new. He told me about the hurt I had inflicted on him back then, and how it took him so much to move on. It was then after that the pain came through to me, but I knew I had to move on too, no matter how much strength it would take.
Please, don't be like me. Don't realise your mistake only when it's too late. It ain't easy in this world to find a person whom you truly love, and who loves you just as deeply in return. When two people fall in love, there ain't no promise that the love will be eternal. But you gotta try and not give up easily or you may never find it again.
I don't know why I'm thinking about this so much tonight. I went throught the box in my home that's filled with these past memories. The gifts, the letters, the cards, the love that was buried in the past. There will always be a mark in my life, because I can never make up for my grave mistake.
I learnt my lesson the hard way, but I swear I will not let myself repeat that mistake again. My fate brought jw to me, and we've stuck together through the sun and the rain for more than 3 years now. My longest love so far. Sure, there were times when I wanna give up, times when I thought he's not the right guy for me. BUT, I tell myself to stop having negative thoughts anymore for the simple fact that I love him. The one thing I'm sure of is that I don't wanna lose him. Never Ever. I will kill myself if I make the same mistake that I made 4 years back.
I honestly don't want to let go of someone I love again. Like what jw always say, as long as we love each other, we can overcome each and every obstacle in our way. I believe it's through obstacles that a couple learns and understands each other better.
Perhaps the little Shuang back in the past has really grown up abit.. Sure, there's a long way to go ahead.. But as long as she holds on to her belief and her positivity in life and love, happiness will come her way..
"I know we could both go on with our lives, and we would both be fine. But I have seen what we can be like together. And I choose us."
The Family Man
~Summer~ 1:18 AM
Work can never substitue family..
It's a Sunday nite. I just got back to jw's house. Weekends always pass by too quickly for my liking. Don't you feel so? Maybe that's becoz like they say, all good things come to an end. & this one always ends fast.
This weekend has been rather quiet for me, staying home watching movies and basically juz lazing around doing nothing. It's been long since I slept at home, and boy did I sleep alot! I feel like I'm sleep-deprived and weekend is the time for me to 'make up' for it. I muz have slept for at least 15 hours in the 2D1N that I was home.
Back at home, I watched another couple of movies. First was 'Minority Report' by Tom Cruise, though it was released few years back, I never had the chance to watch it till now. It was really kinda cool, how the
show depicts the future. I'm amazed by the technology, like how they scan your eyeballs and detect your ID, how the mobile vehicles will look like, how advertising will become incredibly digital and targetted, how pple can invent something called precrime. It's scary, but it may jolly well happen. Such shows always fascinate me, though they may be hard to comprehend at times. I muz say Steven Spielberg is really good.Second show was 'The Family Man' by Nicholas Cage and Tea Leoni. Happened to watch it coz Mummy recorded it on tape. I didn't know what show it was, but was attracted by the title and thought it might be interesting to watch and Nicholas Cage has always been such a terrific actor. Ended up I did love the show, and it made me teared. I seriously wonder why I cry sooo easily when watching movies. Just so easily gan dong-ded by the scenes and tears don't seem to know how or when to stop.
The show was about Jack, a successful vice president of a company who works on Wall Street, and he once gave up the chance to settle down with his college girlfriend Kate to fly to London and concentrate on his career. When he was back, he had money, he had fame, he had power and he had respect. He thought he had everything he wanted in the world. Till one day, an unexpected encounter led him to experience a 'glimpse' of his life, bringing him to experience a life where he was married with Kate, coupled with 2 kids named Annie and Josh. Jack became a husband tied with a family who lives in the suburbs, and he works selling tyres and makes a meagre income every month
. Of coz, intially he wanted his original life back!! How can a successful man like him possibly be tied to a family, where he has to learn to change diapers and take care of kids. No way. But then, when the glimpse was about to end, he realised he had gained something that he never had before. Kinship. Family. Love. Isn't that what's most important in life? But Jack chose to give up when he had the chance with Kate. Sometimes, regrets come only too late.
Not all of us will be endowed with the opportunity to experience a glimpse of our lives. It's true that we don't know what we have till we lose it, but we also don't know what we've been missing till it arrives. But all I wanna ask is that: How can work ever be more important than family? It can never ever substitute the family that you have, that I have.
Never... Don't ever become a slave of work or money. Sounds cliche, but there are so many things in this world that money can't buy. Happiness is one, and kinship is another. These things are what I need for a fulfilling and well lived life. What are the things you want in your life?
~Summer~ 12:16 AM
Friday, September 15, 2006
Oh my gosh.. My colleague had free tix to the premier of "The Banquet" and I didn't go!! If I knew Daniel Wu was going to be there, I wouldn't have missed it for the world. SOBZ.
No amount of chest-thumping now will help. =( Perhaps I missed the once in a lifetime chance, and I'm fated to only see him on TV and movies.
Haiz.. Lesson learnt today: Go for it when you have the chance and find out more before saying NO to freebies!!!!!!
~Summer~ 1:39 PM
Today was the Mad Hatter's Tea Party @ OMD where we celebrated the birthdays of 22 colleagues who were born from July-Sept. This is the invite I did!! Cool? I like the pics!!
It's my first bday bash here, & I was glad to be part of the bash team. It feels warm and nice, like how I always think such events should be. Not only a welfare event, but more importantly an occasion for everyone to catch up, to unwind, to get wild and have fun amidst the busy and hectic work week. =)
In according to theme, most people did show up in their hats!! *phew* We had the room nicely decorated and the food laid out. Yummy!! I wanted to make the event glam and Hollywood styled, since we were having a catwalk session too!! Haha. Guess what were the 6 names I chose for the groups.. Alicia Keys, Brad Pitt, J Lo, Johnny Depp, Penelope Cruz, Will Smith!!! I tot they are some of the signature hat wearers among the celebrities, or at least, they look so good in hats!! =) Too bad I couldn't include Feng Fei Fei too.
The catwalk was fun!! Though I only caught a glimpse of it. Some of them were really spontaneous in their catwalk & creative in their hat designs!! What's most important is that I hope the people had a good time & did enjoy themselves to the max!! Pat won the Best Model prize in the end, and got for herself a 3D2N stay at a hotel in KL, coupled with a spa treatment!! Not bad rite.. Haha.. =p
It's been a fun time preparing for the bash, and now that it's over, it's back to more real work. I'm kinda looking forward to the challenge, and feeling excited that I'm going to learn new stuff!! The internal training starts tmr, every Friday morning 9.30am to 12.30pm. It's going to be like back to school once more, with lectures and lecture notes and pens and foolscap paper. Ain't I glad for that and boy do I miss my CS lectures!! Haha. But this is going to be more serious, and I know I am going to gain real knowledge out of it. So I'm definitely gonna put my heart into it and pray I'll absorb more than I did in school last time!! =p & pls dun doze off!!
Hear the song playing in my background? I luv it!! "From this moment". It's a perfect wedding song, don't you think??? Haha. Not that wedding bells will be ringing in the near future for me, but no harm thinking about it. =) Lalala. What will be your wedding song?? =p
~Summer~ 12:21 AM
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
I always remember this verse after watching Pandora's Box, Journey to the West. The one starred by Stephen Chow, Athena Chu and Karen Mok. Sun Wu Kong said this before he decided to put on his jing ku bang and be devoid of any humanly desires. That was when he revealed his utmost regret.
Have you ever felt the same way? Let go of someone whom you loved? Failed to cherish your loved ones when they were still beside you? Does it rip your heart to see the girl you love cry because of you? Did it devastate you when he left for another girl because you wanted to change him and you just couldn't accept him for who he is?
Regrets, are always there somewhere in our lives.. We can choose not to see them, choose to deviate from them, but one way or another, they are always embedded along the journey. Many people (including me!) say that they wanna lead a life with no regrets. They wanna look back in reminiscence during their twilight years and smile saying that there's no other route they would have taken. They wanna die knowing that they have lived a fulfilling and contented life. Well, who doesn't? But the point is, how many of us can actually do it...
Hard, I would say... If you had, at some point of your life, shed a tear and wished that things had been different or wished that you had done something more while you could, that's already a mark in your life that can't be erased no matter what. BUT, the good thing about life is that: IT MOVES ON. Haha. Positive thinking yar. Life moves on no matter you like it or not, and if you don't wan to be left behind and live in the past, you gotta move on too. A new phase of life brings with it a new set of opportunities and a new gateway to happiness..
Well, that's my two pence worth for tonite.. Oyasumi..
~Summer~ 11:49 PM
10 steps to enjoying each other better...
I once came across this, and though I'm not sure if it's really true, there's always no harm in reading to find out more. Sometimes I do reflect upon them and think about how I can be a better gf.. Well, here goes..
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express urself better so that ur partner understands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5. Show ur love.
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel unhappy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? f Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
A love relationship is not about U or Me, it's about WE..
If I could have the letters 'HRT' and 'E', 'A' ,'U', I could form the words 'HEART' using 'E' and 'A' or 'HURT' using 'U'.
But I would rather choose 'U' and get 'HURT' than have a 'HEART' wifout 'U'...
1. Be realistic about each other.Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express urself better so that ur partner understands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5. Show ur love.
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel unhappy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? f Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
A love relationship is not about U or Me, it's about WE..If I could have the letters 'HRT' and 'E', 'A' ,'U', I could form the words 'HEART' using 'E' and 'A' or 'HURT' using 'U'.
But I would rather choose 'U' and get 'HURT' than have a 'HEART' wifout 'U'...
~Summer~ 12:07 AM
Monday, September 11, 2006
When jw went for sailing yesterday, I received the best present from him ever. He gave me a total of 14 postcards, one to read each day that he's not around. Wow. Even though the postcards look really old and there were only a few lines of text in each, it was definitely more than enough to make a girl like me happy and touched.
It's Sunday today, and it feels weird for me to be travelling home myself. Jw was so right to guess that I will sleep till 12 plus. Damn. I really did. Reading his postcard makes the distance much more bearable, and it feels like he's really here beside me. (for a few seconds, but better than nothing =p)
I watched "50 first dates" again today. It's weird how it can make me tear again despite watching it before. I really like the plot, so warm and touching. If there's indeed a guy like Henry in this world, who loves Lucy to the extent that he goes all out to make her fall in love with him every single day, well, I hope he never gets his heart broken. Good guys usually get hurt alot, I think. The world is just not fair sometimes.
Managed to catch Charlie's Angels II on Ch5 at nite. Exciting! But then again, you watched it and that's it. There's no meaning inside that captures my heart. Nonetheless, I love the great effects and the camaraderie among the angels. & Demi Moore looks so good in the show. It's time for bed soon, and the start of another week tmr. Well well, I'm writing a card every night too, to keep me occupied and also serve as my present for jw when he returns in a fortnight. =)
"The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved".
Victor Hugo
~Summer~ 1:14 AM
Sunday, September 10, 2006
I miss the salsa days when me and jw would go for our lesson every Thur, and then hit Union Square after that (not forgetting the Maxwell suppers!!~)
Those days were fun and memorable. It's been long since we even practiced or danced together, & I bet we've forgotten the bulk of it all.
I love to watch dance videos! Kinda like to see new tricks. & there's endless new tricks out there that a salsarian can pick up. I always find the videos so exciting to watch and so inspirational. This one is by a Toronto couple, who demostrates quite a number of cool tricks. =p
I honestly think it'll be fun and different to perform a dance segment during weddings. Be it salsa, rueda, rumba or any latin or ballroom dance, it'll be so cool to do it on the dance floor with your spouse-to-be on this most important day of your lives. =)
~Summer~ 1:52 PM
The start of 14D of loneliness..
"I am Sam" is now showing on Channel 5. It's a really good show that touches on your emotions, and I love the acting of Sean Penn and Dakota Fanning in it. It's my second time watching the show, and just like the first time, I'm all by myself.
It's weird to be all alone in a house, a house that's not really yours. Even though I've been staying with Junwei for the past 3 years (be it in hall or his house), now that he's gone for half a month of sailing, it feels abit strange to be thinking that I'm gonna sleep here alone. A rather lonely feeling, in fact. Deep down, I do hope that once my bro shifts to his new house, I can revamp our room and tidy it and I can shift some of my stuff from here back home. I wanna paint my room green, get new pieces of furniture, and pack those 20 boxes of stuff I brought back from hall. Haha. When jw leaves for Sweden next year, I wanna move back and stay with my mummy.
Although it's only 2 weeks, it's the longest sailing trip ever. I guess we are really too used to staying together (which sometimes can be both good and bad), that we feel separated even if we don't see each other for a few days. That's so unlike other couples. I do hope I don't end up being a overly-dependent gal. That will be so unlike the past me, who was used to overcoming the feeling of being alone and could take good care of herself. Come to think of it, loneliness isn't that scary a thing. After all, I'm not an old woman who has to stay at home in her rocking chair and knit all day long. I can still go out party, hang out with friends, go to the gym for a workout, surf net or blog, or read books (I love reading!). There are so many things I can do to occupy my free time, and I so badly wanna learn new things and gain more knowledge.
So perhaps I should stop whining and thinking too much. Instead, think about how to better make use of my time when dear is not around. =) Time is precious and I don't wanna waste it. I think I'm growing old quite fast now that I'm approaching mid twenties. Haha. Better make good use of my youth whilst it's still here.Praying hard that jw can survive the 14D of tough sailing.. I'll miss you..
~Summer~ 12:07 AM
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
A night of reminiscence, where we were brought back to 1900s,
to the days of Old Shanghai..
~Summer~ 11:44 PM
Have you ever looked back at your life?
~Summer~ 1:33 AM
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
Going up the NTU stage for the first & last time..
27 July 2006 was my NTU convocation.
I remember 3 years ago, I was still a second year student when I attended Junwei's convo. Time really has wings, doesn't it? It really bewilders and scares me sometimes how fast time passes by, and sometimes before we even know it, a phase of our life has already come to its end.
Mummy must have been super happy and relieved to see me graduate. Finally she doesn't have to crack her brain to think of how to fork out money for my school fees. Yay. Haha. I had a strong feeling of pride when I walked up the aisle, knowing that my mum, dad, popo and junwei were watching me with joy. I know mummy was proud of me too. =)It was a surprise for my dad to come along too, and it was one of the few moments that I thought my mum and dad looked happy and compatible together. If only, if only, moments like this could stay forever. I wouldn't mind studying again in that case. So, I told myself to remain positive and maybe things ain't as bad as I've always felt.
Seeing the friends I made in CS, I guess I really go for quality over quantity. If I were to look for everlasting friendship, I guess I can count how many of the friends here will be with me till we get old. There are some friends in life, you don't even need to see him/her everyday, but that feeling of bond and feeling of love never changes. There are also some other friends in life, you might see him/her so very often, but the feeling you have never goes deeper than just acquaintances or just friends who stay in your life for awhile but vanish after that.
I'm lucky to have friends in my life whom I know, they will be here to stay. 3G1G, LCBs, Xiaoling, Renee, Yingzhen, Steff, Zixuan, Chuanni, Ishi, all of whom are uni friends that I love and friends that I will hold on to dearly. I already have my best group of friends, the badminton gals from AHS, who have shown that friendship does not fade throughout our decade of friendship. Isn't that what friends are for, to be there for each other through the ups and downs, to love and care for each other? Friendship should never revolutionize into something superficial or complicated. Instead, it is so beautiful because of its simplicity and pureness. At least, that's what I believe in. =) Kinship and friendship will always be two of the most important things in my life. Always. 
~Summer~ 10:22 AM