Monday, June 30, 2008
If you don't support me, who will?
Finally met up wif the jie meis yesterday at the 4G steamboat. Dunno why, but it felt like there was a distance amongst some of us. Maybe it's cos we haven chatted for a long time, and everyone's jus too caught up and busy wif her own stuff. Anyway, i distributed my wedd invites to them. N to my rather surprised realisation, except for haz and hm, the rest of them are against the idea of dressing up for my themed wedding.
Reason no 1 - "We don't wanna overshadow you", as in, steal away the limelight. Well, i accept their good will, but the point in coming up wif a theme is hoping dat guests, esp jie meis and bros, will come in support of it and have lotsa fun wif us in the process of preparing for it. The wedding is not about two of us only, it's bout everybody. Think I mentioned many times that it's more like a wedd cum party cum d&d cum farewell for us. So i hope it'll be special in a way. Why is it dat themed weddings are so common in ang moh countries, but seems like the chinese are so skeptical bout it. Leela, my ang moh boss, was so excited bout my wedding becos she's totally passionate about the dressing up bit. N nick, her spouse, jus went for another themed wedding by another singaporean couple. The theme was chinese costumes, and he actually went to buy a full set of costume, the chinese hat, the shirt, pants and all. Now that's wat i'm talking about. For guests to feel a sense of involvement n excitement, not jus discussing bout wat's possible to wear, laugh bout it, but in e end discard e whole idea and come dressed in normal gown or shirt n pants.
Reason no 2 - "I dun wanna look stupid". Wow. Wanna know how i felt when i heard dat? Like a pricked balloon. All my enthusiasm n excitement gone. Sounds like me and jw purposely came up wif a theme to make pple look stupid and feel malu. Come on. Why will we thnk of dat and why do people see it that way? Sigh. I realise it's jus a mentality difference. N at tis point in time, when i'm bogged down wif endless things on my list, i really dun wanna think bout too much liao. Wateva they decide bah. It's jus saddening if they feel they are embarrassing themselves by turning up as princesses, as my beloved jie meis, at my wedding. If they feel so forced into it, den i'd rather they not do anything. Sigh. Our cousins n some of my other frenz sounded more enthu bout it, but after yest, i can't help but think dat in the end, not many will come dressed in theme n it'll end up a normal wedding. Sigh.
Guess i can't let myself be bothered too much, and jus see where fate takes it. Cheer up, shuang shuang.
~Summer~ 9:27 AM